We are going to get along fine if you keep these words or phrases out of you vocabulary when conversing with me.
“I never win anything.” or “I never get my way.” This one really annoys me because one, it’s not true, and two, when you correct someone to that fact, you get pushback.
“Yes, it is true. What have I ever won?”
Well you probably won at ‘rock,paper,scissors’ or ‘thumb fighting’ or being the first to jump in the pool. Think about it.
“You always say that.” or “Bad things always happen to me.”
This is ‘Never’s‘ partner. It is also not true. Using the above examples, obviously people say other things and good things and bad things happen to you and other people too.
Nothing always happens. Go ahead. Tell me something that always happens.
3. ‘I don’t disagree’
This one is such a cop out. It gets you out of saying “I agree” and thus you can still kind of keep your position. When you say “I don’t disagree”, you can follow that with a “but” and continue to argue your point.
“I don’t disagree that Hilary Clinton will make a better president than Donald Trump but Donald Trump is relating to the mainstream better.” Soooooo, do you agree that Hilary Clinton will make a better president or don’t you? I still don’t know.
Will you get a backbone and either ‘agree’ or ‘disagree’. Don’t ‘don’t disagree’.
4. ‘You know what?
No, I don’t know what. Just tell me what you want to tell me. This question is as annoying as, “You know what I think?” or “Do you know what we should do?” or “Do you know what’s funny?” The individual asking the question will stop and wait for the obvious response of “What?” Depending on whom I’m talking to, I remain silent, and wait for them to continue.
Wouldn’t it be easier to just say, “I think we should……” or “It’s funny that……..”
Just get to it.
5. ‘I can’t.’
Yes you can. If you can’t, get help. Giving up is not an option. That’s all I have to say on that.
6. ‘I wish you hadn’t done that.’
What is the point of this statement? Does it help the situation that we now find ourselves in? If I locked the keys in the car, or ate the last slice of carrot cake, or signed the house away, that statement is useless.
Just accept the situation as it is and move on. Either offer a solution or if there’s none to be given then next! The carrot cake is gone.
Please stop crying over spilled milk.
What words or phrases annoy you? Tell me in the comments.